{"id":1307,"date":"2026-10-16T13:09:00","date_gmt":"2026-10-16T23:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/?p=1307"},"modified":"2025-10-22T17:00:03","modified_gmt":"2025-10-23T03:00:03","slug":"lesson-188-living-with-siva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/lesson-188-living-with-siva\/","title":{"rendered":"Lesson 188 \u2013 Living with \u015aiva"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-audio\"><audio controls src=\"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/10\/Lesson_188_lws.mp3\"><\/audio><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>Recording: Gurudeva&#8217;s cloned voice<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">In Defense Of Battering!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There is an old saying in Tamil that is often recited before or after slapping or beating a child: \u0b85\u0b9f\u0bbf\u0baf\u0bc1\u0bae\u0bcd \u0b89\u0ba4\u0bc8\u00ad\u0baf\u0bc1\u0bae\u0bcd \u0b89\u0ba4\u0bb5\u0bc1\u0bb5\u0ba4\u0bc1 \u0baa\u0bcb\u0bb2\u0bcd \u0b85\u0ba3\u0bcd\u0ba3\u0ba9\u0bcd \u0ba4\u0bae\u0bcd\u0baa\u0bbf \u0b89\u0ba4\u0bb5 \u0bae\u0bbe\u0b9f\u0bcd\u0b9f\u0bbe\u0bb0\u0bcd. Adium uthaium uthavu vathu pol annan thambi uthava maddar. It means, \u201cEven the help of one\u2019s younger and older brothers cannot compare to the benefit of being kicked and beaten.\u201d It seems this proverb, printed in certain school books, is taught to students. <br><br>This makes me ask the Hindu community worldwide: What fearful expectations are we nurturing in young minds by repeating such a cruel, stupid edict? Study until midnight to avoid a plastic rod across the back? Obey the teacher or get hit with a strap or cane, then slapped in the face at home for getting beaten in school? Are there more \u015blokas promoting hi\u1e41s\u0101, violence, in the home, more guidelines for corporal punishment? Is it our intention to pass this despicable attitude from generation to generation? Unfortunately it seems to be so. My young Asian monks can recite the above verse from childhood memories. Parents seeking to defend corporal punishment of children will also quote a saying from Manu Dharma \u015a\u0101stra (7.198), \u201cSama, dana, bheda, da\u1e47\u1e0da,\u201d which means \u201cusing kind words (or negotiation), bribery, sowing dissension, and punishment (or striking).\u201d These are the four successive steps in achieving success against an enemy of the realm. It is advice for kings, not parents. I, for one, hope the rules will change in this nuclear-family age, for there are more seeming reasons to hit and fewer places where a beaten child can find solace and love, without the presence of grandma, auntie and others. <br><br>The working mother slaps her children at home because they add stress to her already stressed-out nerve system. Father has a tough day on the job and takes it out on his son\u2019s back or face with the hand, strap or cane. Does it give a sadistic joy to hear young children cry in pain and humiliation? Does it enhance the feeling of \u201cI\u2019m in charge here; you are not!\u201d? <br><br>In the past century we\u2019ve had two world wars and hundreds of smaller ones. Killers come from among those who have been beaten. The slap and pinch, the sting of the paddle, the lash of the strap, the blows of a cane must manifest through those who receive them into the lives of others. But there is a price to pay. The abuser one day becomes the abused. This is a law of life seen manifesting every day. It is called karma. Action gives an equal or more intense reaction, depending on the intent and the emotion behind it. Corporal punishment is arguably a prelude to gangs on the streets, those who will riot on call, and others who suffer in silence and hide behind a desk or in a routine profession, fearing reprimand and punishment, never talking back or offering an opinion. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">NANDINATHA S\u016aTRA 188: GOOD EATING HABITS<br>\u015aiva\u2019s devotees adhere to the \u0101yurvedic principles of eating at regular times, only when hungry, always seated, at a moderate pace; never between meals, in a disturbed atmosphere or when angry or emotionally upset. Aum.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In Defense Of Battering! There is an old saying in Tamil that is often recited before or after slapping or beating a child: \u0b85\u0b9f\u0bbf\u0baf\u0bc1\u0bae\u0bcd \u0b89\u0ba4\u0bc8\u00ad\u0baf\u0bc1\u0bae\u0bcd \u0b89\u0ba4\u0bb5\u0bc1\u0bb5\u0ba4\u0bc1 \u0baa\u0bcb\u0bb2\u0bcd \u0b85\u0ba3\u0bcd\u0ba3\u0ba9\u0bcd \u0ba4\u0bae\u0bcd\u0baa\u0bbf \u0b89\u0ba4\u0bb5 \u0bae\u0bbe\u0b9f\u0bcd\u0b9f\u0bbe\u0bb0\u0bcd. Adium uthaium uthavu vathu pol annan thambi uthava maddar. It means, \u201cEven the help of one\u2019s younger and older brothers cannot compare to the <a class=\"read-more\" href=\"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/lesson-188-living-with-siva\/\">READ MORE<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1307","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-living-with-siva"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1307","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1307"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1307\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":5963,"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1307\/revisions\/5963"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1307"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1307"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1307"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}