{"id":1251,"date":"2026-10-07T13:09:00","date_gmt":"2026-10-07T23:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/?p=1251"},"modified":"2025-10-13T17:00:03","modified_gmt":"2025-10-14T03:00:03","slug":"lesson-179-living-with-siva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/lesson-179-living-with-siva\/","title":{"rendered":"Lesson 179 \u2013 Living with \u015aiva"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-audio\"><audio controls src=\"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/LwS-Lesson-179.mp3\"><\/audio><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>Recording: Gurudeva&#8217;s cloned voice<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The \u201cWhy Don\u2019t You\u201d Approach<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It does not take long for even very young children raised in the \u201cwhy don\u2019t you\u201d method to catch on and understand that they are permitted, indeed expected, to make a personal choice in all that happens in family life. An aggressive few of these children will take over the home and begin giving orders to the parents, unkindly, abusively. Most often, when choices are given, they take the opposite point of view. When you ask a child, \u201cWhy don\u2019t we turn off the TV?\u201d he may answer, \u201cNo, I\u2019m not turning off the television, because the program I\u2019m watching has not ended yet.\u201d When you suggest, \u201cShall we all get into the car?\u201d he will respond, \u201cI am not getting in the car. You all go. I\u2019m staying home.\u201d If you then force him to change his decision after asking him to make a choice, you are considered unreasonable. When this happens, respect is lost and is hard to regain. <br><br>Is the child being disobedient? Well, yes! And well, no. Yes, by responding in opposition to the expected answers, and no because the question itself invites them to decide, and one possible response is to refuse. Such questions from adults tell the child that each one in the household is an independent entity, free to go his or her own way. The child is being taught how to do this by the parents themselves, by the way they phrase their directions. Some parents want their kids out of the home, on their own, supporting themselves. Others don\u2019t. <br><br>There are only two ways: teach dependence or teach independence. Independence should be taught when the child has become an adult and is educated well enough to make it on his own, not before. Then he is responsible and will do right by his parents when they are older, because he understands dharma, duty, because he depended upon and flourished under their direction, their love and their wisdom for oh-so-many years. Don\u2019t let them leave home too early and then continue to learn by their own mistakes. What a sad and often painful way to learn. Don\u2019t let them face up to this. Protect them while you can. Simply don\u2019t give choices. They will never notice the change in your approach and will appreciate the security of positive direction: \u201cLet\u2019s all get into the car. Come along.\u201d \u201cIt is time now to turn off the TV. We are all going to bed.\u201d Keep affirming that \u201cOur family is a team. We move together. We are loyal to each other and tell each other everything, keeping no secrets. We will always stay together and care for one another.\u201d This should come up at every opportunity, at least three times a week. <br><br>What is the binding force that keeps youths in the home? Love. If you love your children completely, they won\u2019t want to leave. You won\u2019t be able to force them out of the house, even if you try. You are bound together by bands of steel made of love. Within this loving relationship, you can guide them and watch over them and help them to live a good life without getting into trouble. Three hugs a day keeps trouble away. How can you apparently practice Hindu bhakti, which is love of God, Gods and guru, and not have enough love in your heart for your son or daughter to make them want to be close to you? If you don\u2019t love your children, they will find someone else to love them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">NANDINATHA S\u016aTRA 179: POLITICAL PERSEVERANCE<br>\u015aiva\u2019s devotees who are parliamentarians face and work through each challenge that comes and are never forced to abdicate. They maintain their office for as long as possible, then seek for the highest next position. Aum.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The \u201cWhy Don\u2019t You\u201d Approach It does not take long for even very young children raised in the \u201cwhy don\u2019t you\u201d method to catch on and understand that they are permitted, indeed expected, to make a personal choice in all that happens in family life. 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