{"id":1046,"date":"2026-09-04T13:09:00","date_gmt":"2026-09-04T23:09:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/?p=1046"},"modified":"2025-09-10T17:00:03","modified_gmt":"2025-09-11T03:00:03","slug":"lesson-146-living-with-siva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/lesson-146-living-with-siva\/","title":{"rendered":"Lesson 146 \u2013 Living with \u015aiva"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-audio\"><audio controls src=\"https:\/\/kauaishindumonastery.com\/mc-daily-lessons\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/08\/LwS-Lesson-146.mp3\"><\/audio><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><em>Recording: Gurudeva&#8217;s cloned voice<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:20px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Marital Harmony<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">One might ask about the traditional role of the husband as guru of the wife, whether he should give in equally to her views when difficulties arise or expect most of the compromise to come from her. In the ideal of the husband\u2019s being the guru in the family, the word guru simply means teacher. So, to be a guru in the household means that he is a very religious, knowledgeable, understanding, humble husband who is kind, honest and respected in the community as an exemplar. Otherwise, the ideal of family guru does not apply, and more of a partnership arrangement between spouses is the default in today\u2019s world. <br><br>People are held in bondage in many ways\u2014physical bondage, emotional bondage, intellectual bondage. In India\u2019s Hinduism, unfortunately, as in many other societies on the Earth, disproportionate numbers of women are still not educated, while the men more often are. Therefore, the woman is held in intellectual bondage, sometimes not even being able to count to a hundred and only being able to, and expected to, gossip in the marketplace and bargain for food. Naturally she would follow the religion of her husband. Naturally she would also depend on him fully for guidance in all other matters, financial and otherwise. <br><br>But times have now changed, and many Hindu women have been educated and can formulate their own opinions through the reasoning processes of their own minds, talk intelligently among themselves and arrive at pragmatic conclusions. The guru-disciple relationship does not exist in marriages of this kind. She does not need to learn anything from her husband. In most cases she has sufficient skills to be financially independent. Therefore, the relationship is not that of a guru and student, but is more like a business partnership, the fourth type of marriage. <br><br>Their business is birthing children and raising them to be good citizens, maintaining a harmonious home by reconciling differences before sleep, even if they are reconciled a few hours after dawn, maintaining the family budget, paying all of the bills on time, saving for their children\u2019s higher level of education, seeing to the children\u2019s being settled in a life of their own, paying off the mortgage on the house, preparing for retirement, seeing to the spiritual upliftment of the community by contributing to the local temple society, maintaining a shrine room in their home, and hiring a local priest to perform house ceremonies and certain sa\u1e41sk\u0101ras within the home. To fulfill all of this, a fair, professional attitude toward one another must be maintained. <br><br>Professional people in large corporations do not argue endlessly before reconciliation, nor do they undermine each other, lest they soon find themselves looking for another place of employment. Divorce in this modern time is like being dismissed, fired, and then the search is on for another partner with whom the same unresolved karma will finally mature. This is because we are born with certain pr\u0101rabdha karmas to be lived through, if not with one person, then with a surrogate. The way to avoid creating new kriyam\u0101na karmas is to face up to the karmas with the first spouse rather than with a second, third or fourth, which would create a kukarma, or bad karma, mess along the way to be later cleaned up, if not in this life, then hopefully in the next life. <br><br>It is said that the wife should see the husband as \u015aiva and he should see her as \u015aakti, which is often misconstrued as putting him in a superior position. The only up-down situation is the educated husband married to an illiterate wife, yet even here the relationship should be one of love and mutual respect. \u015aiva and \u015aakti are totally and equally interrelated as far as \u015aaiva Siddh\u0101nta philosophy is concerned, and cannot exist without one another. Therefore, is the husband \u015aiva, and is she \u015aakti? It\u2019s a yes and no answer. In \u015aaiva Siddh\u0101nta, \u015aiva and \u015aakti are two aspects of a one Being, \u015aiva being the unmanifest Absolute and \u015aakti being the manifest Divinity. <br><br>If the wife is as capable as the husband in the external world and the intellectual world, emotional world and physical world, there is no up-down relationship between them, and they are \u015aiva and \u015aakti, absolutely equal. The old system of male dominance originated in early human societies when physical strength\u2014for war, hunting and heavy muscular effort\u2014was a prime survival factor. It was perpetuated as the way of life in villages of preindustrial India, Europe and early America, where the man received the education and the woman, as a rule, did not. To apply this system in today\u2019s sophisticated technological societies would be to plant the seedlings of the destruction of the marriage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\" \/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">NANDINATHA S\u016aTRA 146: GROWING UP IN THE FAMILY OCCUPATION<br>\u015aiva\u2019s followers abide by the tradition of bringing sons and daughters into the family skills, profession or business by involving them from a young age. This is family dharma, family bonding, family perpetuation. Aum.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Marital Harmony One might ask about the traditional role of the husband as guru of the wife, whether he should give in equally to her views when difficulties arise or expect most of the compromise to come from her. 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